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Writer's pictureShane Budd

Cracking the "I'm Busy" Code: Decoding Priorities in Relationships

You know that familiar "I'm busy" excuse you often hear? Well, it's more than just a convenient phrase. When someone says they're busy, they're subtly telling you that other things, people, and activities take precedence over spending time with you. In simpler terms, you're not on their priority list.

 


Let's be real—if someone genuinely cares about you, they'll move mountains to be with you, no matter how hectic their schedule may seem. So, if you find yourself consistently facing the "I'm too busy" excuse, it's time for a reality check. Take a step back and reevaluate the relationship.

 

We've all used the "too busy" card at some point, right? It's the go-to excuse when you're not ready to commit to something or if you're trying to avoid someone. People often use it to keep their options open without giving a specific reason for declining.

 

Another angle is the desire to appear important and in demand. Claiming to be busy is a way of signalling success, a bustling life, and importance, even if that's not entirely accurate.

 

Here's a truth bomb: People make time for what and who they truly want. If you're not a priority in someone's life, accept it, and don't waste time waiting for them to be available for you.

 

Sure, priorities can shift over time. Someone too busy now might become more available in the future, or they might get even busier. It happens. Don't take it personally; consider it a sign to redirect your efforts elsewhere.

 

Focus on the people and things that genuinely matter to you. If you discover you're a low priority in someone's life, don't waste energy trying to climb their priority ladder. Let it go—being someone's plan B is never a fulfilling role.

 

Life is too short to settle for being an afterthought. Learn from these experiences, prioritize yourself, and invest time where you're valued.


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